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I am not just a Muslim – Reflections of a revert


How much does our religion define who we are? Recently I have found myself in situations where I have had to compromise my personal beliefs because of religious obligations or pressure. Should we blindly follow what we are told or expected to believe, or is there an allowance for self discovery and spiritual connections?

I am a woman
I am a wife
I am a daughter
I am a career oriented person
I am going to be a mother
I like to learn about other peoples beliefs
I love my family
I have better friendships with non-Muslims than with Muslims
I get on better with men than with women. They gossip less
I relate to Asian cultures more than the one I was born in to
I don’t fit the mold
I like to wear make up
I like to straighten my hair

But I am a Muslim. How many boxes must I tick to be accepted? And does it matter?



Author: noorlaila265

Hospitality trainer, wife, mother, multi-faith, reader, writer, food fanatic, lover of poetry. “Study me as much as you like, you will not know me, for I differ in a hundred ways from what you see me to be. Put yourself behind my eyes and see me as I see myself, for I have chosen to dwell in a place you cannot see.”

3 thoughts on “I am not just a Muslim – Reflections of a revert

  1. As salaam alaikum, sister. As a revert I find that I feel more pressure than my counterparts or those born into Islam. I feel obligated to go without error in the public and especially in front of other Muslims however I feel compelled to maintain a sense of my own culture which I find to be very separate from religion. I recently posted about maintaining balance. I wonder is it okay to continue to celebrate American (not Christian) holidays even though most of my friends will not claiming them to be shirk or haram – however I still wonder – is it okay? I am still American – that has not changed. I continue to seek answers for these things and InshaAllah I will find them, my own balance, and inner peace while still being able to practice Islam I enjoyed your post and I respect your struggle. It is nice to read that I am not alone. May Allah make it easy on you!

    • Salaam sister – thanks for your message. I agree, there is a lot of pressure and if we don’t conform in some environments in is very much a case of “Oh she’s not really a Mulsim” – which is outrageous. In my point of view, anyone who shows negativity towards new and old Muslims obviously doesn’t have a strong enough spiritual understanding themselves. There can be a lot of pressure though and at times I am sure we all feel like giving up. But in all honesty, furthering my spiritual connection is one of the things that simply just keeps me going! With regard yo your battles with balanced your ‘American-ness’ I would say just continue doing as you are doing, find what you are comfortable with and stick to that. A lot of people (especially women) think that they have the right and the knowledge to act as a scholar, but ultimately it is your path and you need to find your own way xx

  2. Deep down beyond our bodies and minds we are one. If we call us muslim, christ or whatever. We are one because la ilaha illah allah. I wish u all the best

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