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Arranged marriage experiences and thoughts – what are yours? Contact me!

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Following on from a rather interesting conversation with one of my family today, I am putting together a piece on arranged marriage. Having looked into the opinions of those people from specific nationalities or races I gathered that many westerners view ‘arranged marriage” as being the same as “forced marriage’ whereas those of you from Asian or Arab countries may have a completely different perspective. I would like to ask any of you to come forward (anonymously if you prefer) and let me know your thoughts on these practices – whether for or against and reasons behind your opinions. Please be as honest as you like, but of course please be constructive in your feedback – it would be much appreciated. 

Please drop me an email at morethanhijab@gmail.com or comment below. Image

JAK, Noora x

 Photo = my wedding, Sri Lanka, April 2013

 

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3 thoughts on “Arranged marriage experiences and thoughts – what are yours? Contact me!

  1. Aswa, Sister this correspondence is growing. I hunted online and found this short article I submitted some years ago. http://www.islamanswering.com/subpage.php?s=article&aid=1336
    lots more water under the bridge since then….Although I can honestly say that I appreciate everything that Islam has given me.Maash’Allah, I am still happily married, my children both step and natural are all independent and almost full grown.We have a growing family 11grandchildren maash’Allah Alayhum and two more on the way insh’Allah.I naively thought we would have a peaceful retirement, no sign of that I am pleased to say…..We are still parenting and learning Al Hamdulillah………

  2. I’m opposed to it. Although there may very well me some happily married couples from arranged or forced marriages, somewhere there are those who are not. I can’t imagine being coupled with someone you are not compatible with, who can’t be your soul mate, your best friend, your everything. Arranged marriage is not a freedom of choice and freedom of choice is at the heart of being human. True, responsibility goes with that and so does respect for yourself and others, especially your mate. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Although the Western world has reduced that commitment and in so doing provides sin of the flesh, the most happiest of married couples who last 50, 60, 70 years in marriage are those who are committed to their soul mate. I am ignorant on Muslim women’s view of many Islamic things, that’s one reason I come to sites like yours to learn. My true feelings are, if she is happy with her life, has no or few regrets and is expressing herself truthfully, then so be it. Leave her alone. But if she is not happy, free her.

  3. Reblogged this on more than hijab and commented:

    Reblogging this! Please have a look – if you have any thoughts/experiences/feedback please do get in touch. All comments will be anonymous if you wish, JAK Noora x

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