As I’ve mentioned before, I feel that there is a real lack of support for reverts in general in some areas of our community – but I was surprised to find that these problems are not symbolic only of reverts. I recently connected with the lovely and talented Nina from Lu’Lu Bag and I want to share with you some of her experiences as a born Muslim in a multi-cultural relationship. We were both surprised by how similar our experiences were, despite being born into different religions and nationalities. It goes to show….whenever you feel you are alone, there’s always someone to find common ground with Alhamdulilah. Thank you so much to Nina for sharing her feelings and experiences with me, and for any sisters who are struggling with their faith, InshAllah you will find something to help you get through it. I have also put the link to Nina’s website below, she has some beautiful products so please have a look.
Make dua and be happy :-), Noora xx
Q1. What was the biggest issue that you faced when introducing your husband to your family?
He isn’t the same nationality as me (Bosnian).The fact that my family believes in Allah eventually helped and my Dad was very unhappy. But thank God he never abandoned me and upon our nikkah he left behind any anger and gave me away happily. He was scared at first I’d go off to Africa and he’d never see me, so instead I went to UK and he sees me a few times a year.. But my husband is a Muslim and he is very charming so he won them over!
Q2, Did you have the same issues with your husbands family and how was their treatment of you?
His family is very religious, both parents are hajjis and accepted me with open arms Alhamdulillah. Culture clashes have happened and at times tears were shed, but having Allah as main priority makes it easy to overcome trivial stuff.
Q3. Did you ever experience other people from outside your family making assumptions about your marriage?
Oh yes. The first assumption is that I converted for him. Conversion is a personal thing and I hate that phrase, faith and belief is something you can only do within yourself, so this irks me royally. Then the hijab, they assume that he made me do it. When I practice something Islamic, which might not be normal in my culture or that other Muslims have not embraced, they paint it as a cultural thing I had to follow because of my husband.
Q4. As a hijabi what are non-Muslims treatment/reaction of you like?