I recently came across an interesting conversation on a Dubai Forum website. The poster had asked what the guidelines regarding children (non-Muslim) are in Dubai in Ramadan as this would be her first time back in Dubai after a 10 year absence. This is a simple enough question, and a fairly respectful one at that, so despite these forums being well known as the hunting ground for a certain type of lady who take pleasure in arguing over the smallest comment….you would think that the replies would be polite and constructive to help the poster as she tried to integrate into life here.
Wrong. As I scrolled down the comments in which many regular posters veered off into their own personal arguments or even made derogatory comments towards the poster, I felt saddened that these people were representing the Muslim community here. Of course, this is not to say that these are symbolic of the community as a whole, because Alhamdulilah we have a wealth of supportive and informative groups here, but the fact that the negative traits which we strive to control, were being poured out on a public forum was shocking and I started to think – why aren’t we nicer to each other? What drives us, as women and as sisters in faith, to bring each other down in such an aggressive way?
We are well aware that there are stereotypes about our religion. So instead of proving those misconceptions wrong – by showing that we are kind, generous, support and respectful people as we have been taught to be- why do some of us seem to take pleasure in criticizing and demeaning other? As Muslims, surely this goes against the very foundation of our religion.
“The believer does not slander, curse, or speak in an obscene or foul manner” (Al-Tirmidhi)
I’m sure everyone has also witnessed the onslaught of abuse that vloggers and posters receive on social media platforms as well – youtubers in particular seem to get the brunt of it. My question is – if we don’t like what we see/read/hear, then why can’t we simply ignore it? Regardless of whether or not we agree with what is being posted, being different is what makes the world interesting.
Of course, its human nature to gossip and we all know that spreading bad news is far more interesting than spreading good news – but even if this is a natural human trait, we are still expected to overcome and control this.
Finally, who has the time to abuse people negatively? Surely this time would be better spent on any other activity – be it career, family, Ilm or charity.
“And why did you not, when you heard it, say – “It is not right to speak of this: Glory to God! This is a most serious slander!” (24:16)
Make Dua and keep hope – Noora xx